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You Have More Power Than You Think

You Have More Power Than You Think

Last night I was at the closing session of my boyfriend Brynley’s Landmark Forum (a personal development weekend). At one point in the evening, the Landmark Forum leader said,

“A leader never sees the edge of their pond. They cause ripples but they never see their reach.”

It moved me.

I’ve known this to be true, but I’d never heard it articulated that way. I quickly grabbed my phone and wrote it in my notes.

The evening continued, and while on a break, I started chatting with one of my boyfriend’s work friends he’d invited to the session. It came up at some point that he and his girlfriend were doing a no-drinking challenge for a month.

Ah cool! When did you start?

He said February 26th, and I smiled inside.

You see, Brynley is also doing a no-drinking challenge, which he started on…February 22nd.

He didn’t broadcast it or challenge people to do it too, he just ordered a non-alcoholic beer one night and someone noticed.


Just the same way Brynley noticed another one of his friends order a ginger ale a few months ago to then discover he’d been doing a no-drinking challenge for the whole year!


So there I was feeling inspired by what the Landmark Forum leader had said while immediately seeing the truth of it in my own surroundings.

The evening ended, and I was different. What I saw reminded me I have more impact than I realize, and that in simply focusing on changing myself, I will inevitably impact others.

Which brings me to three questions I want to ask us today:

1. Do you realize you have more influence than you think you have? (I’m going to share this blog with the guy who inspired my boyfriend, so he can see his ripples!)

2. If you knew you had a lot of influence with your friends, family community, what would you do differently today?

3. If leading others simply means changing yourself for the good, where would you start?


With lots of love,



  • Anna Rosenfield
    Posted at 17:55h, 08 February Reply

    Great post Rosanna! Brings up some important questions and reminds me of a quote I cherish from Marianne Williamson’s book, A Return to Love:

    “Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

    • Rosanna Tomiuk
      Posted at 15:47h, 09 February Reply

      Thank you for sharing that quote!!! That’s exactly it.

      I was also reminded of when she says, “Our deepest fear is not that we’re inadequate but that we’re powerful beyond measure…” I finally got it, about a year ago, in a way I never could. In the past, I was like, “No, my fear is that I’m inadequate! I don’t get this quote!” And then I saw that if I really perceived myself as powerful beyond measure, it would be scary as hell…because then I’d know how powerful my actions are! Then I’d see I need to take big actions because my impact could be big as well! And man, that’s scary! It feels exhausting. Like, I’d rather stay on the couch and eat chips (not really, but at least a part of me)… xoxo

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