08 Feb You Have More Power Than You Think
Last night I was at the closing session of my boyfriend Brynley’s Landmark Forum (a personal development weekend). At one point in the evening, the Landmark Forum leader said,
“A leader never sees the edge of their pond. They cause ripples but they never see their reach.”
It moved me.
I’ve known this to be true, but I’d never heard it articulated that way. I quickly grabbed my phone and wrote it in my notes.
The evening continued, and while on a break, I started chatting with one of my boyfriend’s work friends he’d invited to the session. It came up at some point that he and his girlfriend were doing a no-drinking challenge for a month.
Ah cool! When did you start?
He said February 26th, and I smiled inside.
You see, Brynley is also doing a no-drinking challenge, which he started on…February 22nd.
He didn’t broadcast it or challenge people to do it too, he just ordered a non-alcoholic beer one night and someone noticed.
Just the same way Brynley noticed another one of his friends order a ginger ale a few months ago to then discover he’d been doing a no-drinking challenge for the whole year!
So there I was feeling inspired by what the Landmark Forum leader had said while immediately seeing the truth of it in my own surroundings.
The evening ended, and I was different. What I saw reminded me I have more impact than I realize, and that in simply focusing on changing myself, I will inevitably impact others.
Which brings me to three questions I want to ask us today:
1. Do you realize you have more influence than you think you have? (I’m going to share this blog with the guy who inspired my boyfriend, so he can see his ripples!)
2. If you knew you had a lot of influence with your friends, family community, what would you do differently today?
3. If leading others simply means changing yourself for the good, where would you start?
With lots of love,