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27 Apr When How You Think It Is Is Not How It Is

About eight years ago, my friend Matt and I were writing a song. With a notebook and our voices, we sat at the piano and teased out lyrics and a melody. When we finished, we decided to record a video of it and share it online. I pressed record, and we were off! When we were about mid-recording, I looked at the camera screen in front of us and noticed there was something going on in the background. I turned around to see my sister doing a goofy interpretive dance to our composition… “Daria!” I exclaimed in frustration, “We’re recording!!!” She, feeling sheepish, confessed she had no idea we were filming and left the room. She disappeared for an hour and eventually returned with a bruised ego. Once Matt left, she told me I had made her feel really stupid - that the tone of my voice was harsh! She had put herself out there to...

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19 Apr 3 Ways To Clean Up Your Mess When You Say The Wrong Thing

Being human means being imperfect. You’re going to make mistakes, and you’re going to say the wrong thing. Even if you do, everything is still, as Marie Forleo says, “FIGUREOUTABLE”! So what do we do when we’ve said the wrong thing and fear we’ve hurt a relationship? Here are 3 ways to clean up your mess: 1. Acknowledge the impact. Whatever you said or did, regardless of what your intention was, had an impact on the other person, and that impact is negative. Acknowledge the impact. Ask more about it so you understand it in full. 2. Apologize. There is nothing like a straightforward apology without any excuses attached to it. “I’m sorry, but…” doesn’t work. It’s justifying. Neither does, “I’m sorry you’re feeling hurt.” It’s removing responsibility from your shoulders. Look them in the eyes, perhaps pause for a second so they know what you’re about to say is serious, and say, “I’m sorry I…” and...

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11 Apr Change your life or change your paradigm?

A few years ago, I went up to the mountains in British Columbia for a retreat. I spent time with amazing people and was challenged in different areas of my life. After three days of digging deep, I ended up breaking up with my boyfriend, quitting triathlon and ending my relationship with my music manager. I acted very fast. I had clarity in the mountains I didn't have down at sea level, and I didn't want to let fear creep in to stop me. Fast forward to a few days ago - My friend sends me a Tony Robbins video about massive action and the blueprint we have for our lives. In a nutshell, Tony explains that we become unhappy when the conditions of our lives are not matching the blueprint of our lives. A blueprint is like a plan or expectation of how things will go. So to be happy, we either have to take massive action to begin creating...

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28 Mar 3 Reasons Why Knowing Your Personality Will Make Your Life Better

I love learning about my personality. I've taken around ten assessments, and I'm a certified coach in four (fifth in process!). The idea that we can gain more clarity around who we are and what makes us tick is really encouraging to me, and I've seen it make a huge difference in my life and the lives of my clients. Here are 3 Reasons Knowing Your Personality Will Make Your Life Better 1. You'll recalibrate what 'normal' means As I love to say to my clients: You've been hanging out with yourself for your whole life, so what makes you special might actually feel very normal to you. You might not even know that what feels very normal to you is a strength, and you may expect that everyone else has that 'normalcy' also. For example, I remember the day I received the results of my StrengthsFinder report and read about one of my strengths...

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28 Mar What to do with your emotions…

The other night, my boyfriend and I had a disagreement that left me hurt and saying, "I just want to be alone right now!" while I stormed off to my bedroom like a little girl. Thankfully, he didn't let me get away with it and came to talk to me after a few minutes of me crying into my pillow. As I lay there in tears, he began explaining how I wasn't seeing the situation clearly. As he was mid-explanation, I noticed two parts of myself show up to the moment. There was the Emotional Woman and there was also the Objective Onlooker. The Emotional Woman was inside of me, the Objective Onlooker was in the top corner of the room speaking reason over me. I listened to her as my boyfriend explained himself, and within a few minutes it was all over. We worked it out and ended up better off than we'd been before the disagreement. Which got...

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08 Feb You Have More Power Than You Think

Last night I was at the closing session of my boyfriend Brynley's Landmark Forum (a personal development weekend). At one point in the evening, the Landmark Forum leader said, "A leader never sees the edge of their pond. They cause ripples but they never see their reach." It moved me. I've known this to be true, but I'd never heard it articulated that way. I quickly grabbed my phone and wrote it in my notes. The evening continued, and while on a break, I started chatting with one of my boyfriend's work friends he'd invited to the session. It came up at some point that he and his girlfriend were doing a no-drinking challenge for a month. Ah cool! When did you start? He said February 26th, and I smiled inside. You see, Brynley is also doing a no-drinking challenge, which he started on...

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10 Jan What to do when you have a complaint about someone

I was sitting there, frustrated. One of my clients was late, again. I was saying all these things to myself: What is with people? I even sent a reminder! How can she be so unaccountable when she holds such a high position? She has an assistant to manage her calendar - come on!!! I was upset, and I was blaming someone else. I took a deep breath. ...

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03 Jan How can a daily affirmation help you?

It's pop culture to talk about affirmations, but what are they really? Is there more to them than proclaiming something like, "I'm awesome!"? I think so. A few days ago I was visiting my dad with my older brother. My brother asked my dad, "Hey dad, will you show us the scrapbook?" It was a scrapbook my dad had been creating over the years, filled with pictures and letters of our family from years past. We came across one letter that was written to my dad's grandma, informing her about her family's history in Norway. The letter linked her lineage back to the man who'd created the Constitution of Norway. I was distracted chasing after my one year-old nephew as my brother read the letter aloud but suddenly stopped in my tracks when I heard that part. "What?!" I grabbed my nephew into my arms so I could listen intently without fear he'd try to...

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13 Dec What to do when you feel like sh*t (The 4-Step Self-Coaching Process!)

Last Friday I felt off. I wasn't sick, I just felt sort of terrible, mentally. The things that usually manage to sneak discouragement into my life are: thoughts about some of my failed dreams, the fear of not 'making it', comparison, the fact that I'm not married with a kid or two, my family's health, and the feeling of uncertainty about the bigger, spiritual purpose of the universe (existential, I know). When I feel this way, I often reach out to someone I know who can help cheer me up. I also self-coach with a process I've seen work over and over again. Which is what I want to share with you right now. Please try this at home! When you feel like sh*t: 1) Acknowledge there's a breakdown. Look, you feel like sh*t. You might feel powerless, trapped, or not self-expressed, which is not who you are when you're feeling amazing. Acknowledge it. Say it out loud:...

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