I was sitting there, frustrated.
One of my clients was late, again.
I was saying all these things to myself: What is with people? I even sent a reminder! How can she be so unaccountable when she holds such a high position? She has an assistant to manage her calendar - come on!!!
I was upset, and I was blaming someone else.
I took a deep breath.
It's pop culture to talk about affirmations, but what are they really? Is there more to them than proclaiming something like, "I'm awesome!"?
I think so.
A few days ago I was visiting my dad with my older brother. My brother asked my dad, "Hey dad, will you show us the scrapbook?" It was a scrapbook my dad had been creating over the years, filled with pictures and letters of our family from years past.
We came across one letter that was written to my dad's grandma, informing her about her family's history in Norway. The letter linked her lineage back to the man who'd created the Constitution of Norway.
I was distracted chasing after my one year-old nephew as my brother read the letter aloud but suddenly stopped in my tracks when I heard that part. "What?!" I grabbed my nephew into my arms so I could listen intently without fear he'd try to...
Last Friday I felt off. I wasn't sick, I just felt sort of terrible, mentally.
The things that usually manage to sneak discouragement into my life are: thoughts about some of my failed dreams, the fear of not 'making it', comparison, the fact that I'm not married with a kid or two, my family's health, and the feeling of uncertainty about the bigger, spiritual purpose of the universe (existential, I know).
When I feel this way, I often reach out to someone I know who can help cheer me up. I also self-coach with a process I've seen work over and over again. Which is what I want to share with you right now.
Please try this at home!
When you feel like sh*t:
1) Acknowledge there's a breakdown. Look, you feel like sh*t. You might feel powerless, trapped, or not self-expressed, which is not who you are when you're feeling amazing. Acknowledge it. Say it out loud:...
It's about a week ago. My boyfriend, Brynley, and I are driving to the country. We pull into a random gas station about an hour away from home, and a guy approaches Brynley to ask him if he's looking for parts for his car. Well, yes, absolutely! Just earlier that day he'd had a long-overdue visit to the garage. He talked to the mechanic about what needed to be done to get his car ready for winter, and the first thing was finding an affordable pair of winter tires. Nothing could be done until he had the tires. Brynley left the mechanic with snow tires on his mind, and just a few hours later a guy is offering him a pair for his exact model and year of car at an affordable rate...
I didn't have a cellphone in high school. I didn't know how to Google search. I didn't have a Kindle or iPad. There was no video chatting or text messaging, and my siblings and I competed for the one desktop computer we had at home (to get on ICQ with our crushes).
The access to information just 15 years ago was far more scarce than it is today...